Comments on: Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening.

By: OutSide Lookin In

OutSide Lookin In — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 10:59:31 +0000

Highly recommend this book if you are struggling with this issue. It’s not an easy read, and it’s difficult to see yourself in some of the scenarios, but it provides good examples of ways to change the dynamics of a relationship. The most important message is to take care of yourself so you don’t go down with the ship.
Rating: 5 / 5

By: Therapist

Therapist — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 10:54:16 +0000

I’m a therapist who works with the family members of substance users. I always use this book with my clients and they LOVE it. They like the easy to read format, the exercises that encourage change, and the positive tone of the book. I can’t tell you how many lives this book has helped change. If you have a family member or close friend who has an alcohol or drug problem, this is the book for you!
Rating: 5 / 5

By: addiction doc

addiction doc — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 09:06:55 +0000

I have read this book…i have given copies of it free to many clients…and have gotten only good feedback…and i have heard the shrill voices like those of these negative reviews for so long now i could cry…there are better and more effective ways to help families of alcoholics..this book outlines them, including explaining the research findings now for 20 years on this topic. So when will people start to listen to hear what works in the real world, not what they want to believe and insist on jamming down everyone’s throat. These “disease of alcoholism” people with their constant attacks on those struggling to really change their drinking…with their demeaning language and desire to put everyone safely in the same box…the “alcoholic…we all know what that is” box…hurts all of us…treatment providers (me), clients and families alike. The truth is: Alanon does not help the alcoholic, interventions hurt the alcoholic, CRAFT helps everyone. Wake up and grow up please.
Rating: 5 / 5

By: happy mother

happy mother — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 06:42:10 +0000

In this book it tells me that I have to be “nicer” and make him more “comfortable and relaxed”. That will make his journey easier… Sure, but what will it do to me? I tried that route and he was so relaxed that he drank more. He needs to hit his bottom and he needs to hit it without any help from me. I need to get out of his way and get off his back and live my own life. I don’t need to do any more for him.

I wish it were so easy. It’s not and the AlAnon way is the best way. Get a book that follows that.
Rating: 1 / 5

By: Joy

Joy — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 06:00:09 +0000

This book/intervention program is perfect for an alcoholic who still wants to drink...and get away with it "with a professional stamp of approval".
Interesting that this book's title is similar to my favorite lifesaving book, "Getting Them Sober". Interesting, too, that the authors of this book (that we are reviewing here) seemed to have piggybacked the popularity of the "Getting Them Sober" title (published years before their book!). (I enjoy learning about what's going on in the reality of the publishing world!)
I am writing about the "Getting Them Sober" book here, because it is SO totally different from this book! It understands that alcoholics cannot drink at all and still be considered to be sober....and it is unsurpassed in its ability to help the family of the alcoholic. As Melody Beattie said on its cover, ""Getting Them Sober" is the BEST book for the family of the still-drinking alcoholic". I agree with her. Here is the product link:Getting Them Sober: You Can Help! (Getting Them Sober)(P.S.) Please click on my profile to see my reviews of other books too.

Rating: 1 / 5