- ISBN13: 9780307345301
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Product Description
In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love—Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection… More >>
Perhaps I am a bit biased because my worldview is different from Katie’s, but I thought this book was bad at best. Katie starts off by stating her belief that we (humans) are love. I cannot refute this without also admitting that as a Christian, I believe God is Love and that we as humans were created in love, but are not love itself. Look at the world to find out that this point is true.
She goes on to talk about how, since we are love, we are never without love and should therefore not look for love outside of ourselves. She states that we do not receive love from others, but rather it is all within us. She turns the act of falling in love, into a mere act of loving ourself, not the other person.
While I agree with many points she makes about humans seeking approval from others by behaving in the way we think others would desire, I had a hard time detaching this insight from her main point of “it’s all about me.” I likewise agree with her general point of not being able to receive love from someone else if you don’t first love yourself, but must stop agreeing with her belief that all the love comes from within us.
I found her exercises to be poorly written and difficult to follow. Perhaps if you have read her other works, you might find these easier to do, however, I was confused by the specific things she was asking me to do and therefore found them useless.
In short, if you agree with Katie’s worldview or your main problem in life is that you constantly seek the approval of others (to the point that it is detrimental to your life), then this book is probably worth a read. If you are like-minded with me, you will probably have a difficult time overlooking her general views and accomplish/learn very little from this book.
Rating: 2 / 5
I usually don’t write reviews, but this book is so bad that I just had to. The author is either a complete phony or a complete nutcase. While the methods she mentions might work for superficial concerns, it does nothing for issues that create deep emotional turmoil. Humans (and animals) feel sadness and rage over things they percieve as unjust. Among many of the bad examples used, the worst was the example that someone shouldn’t care if their child died. If a child asks her parents if they will be ok if she passes away, according to the author this how her parent’s should answer “Well, sweetheart, let me see. I wouldn’t have to get up so early in the morning, and I’d have the first shower, and I could go out whenever I liked”(pg.182-183). Yeah, say that to a child and watch her self esteem get ruined for life. And any parent who would say that to their child shouldn’t have one anyways. This woman is selfish, insane, and completly apathatic. Wonder if she has the guts to say this to the face of a parent who has lost their child and would give up having the first shower in the morning (and everything else in this world) to see and hold their child again.
Rating: 1 / 5
I Need Your Love – Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead
Tis book is amazing! This book can help you heal all the devastating pain you feel from painful relationships! MUST READ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Rating: 5 / 5
As I haven’t finished the book, it feel peasent to read some of the stories and meditate over them. Is so much true on it, it has let me see my dependecy on other people, and heal myself. Thanks for your guidence Byron.
Rating: 5 / 5
This book helps to solidify Byron Katie’s Work more specifically for relationship issues. It is very helpful and I have used its principles very successfully with many of my patients.
Rating: 5 / 5