If your boyfriend has backed out of the relationship for no apparent reason, you are obviously heartbroken. You are probably sobbing yourself to sleep every night wondering what he is doing and where he is. Don’t worry because here are a few ways to get your ex back.

You most likely won’t want to hear this, but you have to think about the situation logically. Think back and try to work out why things have gone off the rails. Has he been acting strange lately? Do you think he fancies someone else? Is there something you said or did to offend him?

Rule Number One: Think with your brain and not your heart. Your first instinct is to call him and apologize. This is fine, except you must never do this with a tone of desperation. If he thinks that the apology is just a way to get back in his good books, it won’t work. In fact, it might even make matters worse.

Guys often get scared when they think a relationship is getting too serious. If this is the case, he might just want some space. Even if he is in love with you, he could be feeling crowded or pressurized into making a long-term commitment. Therefore, give him time. If you suspect this is the problem, don’t call him for at least two weeks.

Sometimes reverse psychology works like a charm. Organize a weekend away with a group of friends or have a party, but don’t invite him. His mates will soon give him the news and the idea of you having fun without him could do the trick. Remember, that guys get just as jealous as girls.

At some point, you are going to have to talk because you cannot leave unfinished business. Meet somewhere where you can talk logically. A coffee bar of other public place will force you both to keep calm and not create any unnecessary scenes. Hear his side of the story (don’t interrupt) and then state your case. If he is worthy of you, he won’t want to lose you. Hopefully, you will soon get your ex back.

Ian Cruz writes about how to get your ex back. Check out his 5 Mistakes That Could Be Stopping You From Getting Your Ex Back